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Rejected But Not Defeated

I have received your application but I regret to inform you that at this time we have no positions available.

Your application for the loan has been denied.

We regret that we are not able to offer you admission to the Program at The University.

You are such a wonderful person but I don’t love you.

In life we all have to deal with rejection at one point or another.  It does not matter if it is from a loved one, job or university; one thing is certain, it will occur.  Rejection can lead to feelings of inadequacy, depression and/or self- doubt. It can be difficult to see yourself as beautiful, intelligent or successful if you are constantly hearing the word "no."   It can start to chip away at your self-esteem when you start to think that you are a failure as result of being rejected.  



You need to think of rejection as "delayed but not denied." Delayed because you will find a partner who loves you, you will get that job, promotion and university acceptance. It will occur. It simply did not occur at the time you thought it would and may not be where or with whom you expected.  Some say rejection is God’s way of protecting you from the things or individuals He does not want for you.

There are many things you can learn from rejection. Use it as an opportunity to improve. Think about what you can do to improve and if there's anything you can do differently next time.

Do not Criticize Yourself Harshly

Everyone has been rejected at a point in time in their lives. Some of the most successful individuals in the world have been rejected : Oprah Winfrey, Walt Disney, Bill Gates and Stephen King.  Do not  beat yourself up because you did not get the job, loan or significant other.  It simply may not be the right fit for you. 

Do not let the fear of rejection prevent you from trying. 

Too many people are so afraid of the hurt which stems from rejection that they give up on their dreams.  When you get knocked down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep moving. Your breakthrough is around the corner. Life is filled with disappointments, set backs and trials, you cannot avoid it so focus on overcoming them.It is your reaction to rejection that will define you.

I recommend speaking positively of yourself when these disappointments, set backs and trials occur.

Don't let rejection get you down, you'll be alright :)

There are times where I have questioned whether I was smart enough or good enough as a result of rejection. I still haven't found the job and significant other but that does not mean I should view myself or life negatively.  When I'm feeling down, I remind myself of all the things I have achieved thus far in my life. I remind myself that my life is not over because I did not get the job I applied for.  I'm alive ,healthy and eventually, everything will fall into place.

If you have been rejected by a loved one -  try dating yourself, meeting new people, travel, try a new activity (painting, dance class etc).

Job rejection -  try not to take it personally; they do not know how awesome you actually are. Send out a million more applications. You will be accepted somewhere. 

Will you allow rejection to demoralize you or will you view it as merely a bump on the road to success?

Char is the Editor of doseofinspiration246.com. A firm believer in Christ and has a deep love for her family. Char believes that we should always seek to uplift and encourage each other and she desires to continuously promote positivity.