What is self love?
Self love may mean different things to different people but ultimately, how you feel about yourself will determine the type of relationships you have and the life you settle for.
Self love is unconditionally loving the reflection in the mirror
Self love is believing in yourself even when others don't
Self love is letting go of the partner that causes you so much pain regardless of how much you love them
Self love is saying no to the things that won't get you your yes
Self love is being true to who you are and owning it
Self love is practicing proper self care. For example: Ensuring you get adequate rest
Self love is betting on yourself and taking that risk in hope of living your dreams
Do you get it? Do you have an idea of what self love is and why it is important?
It isn't rocket science, self love is basically loving yourself unconditionally, knowing your worth and not settling for anything short of that. In order to love yourself , you must know who you are, this is vital for self love. If you're unsure of who you are, spend time alone and dig deep. Think about what you do when you're alone, what brings you joy, what morals and aspirations you have etc.
If you do this and realize that you don't like who you are, you have one simple option and that is to MAKE A CHANGE. If your main issue is in relation to your physical appearance, ensure that you want to make changes for yourself and not due to the opinions of others. Own your beauty and fake it until you believe it if you have to. Look yourself in the mirror everyday and say "hey you sexy thing!' God makes no mistakes, you were created in His image and you are perfect just the way you are. Anyone who has an issue with your appearance, doesn't matter.
You define who you are and you do not need validation from anyone. You are always with yourself and talk to yourself the most so feed your mind positive thoughts and continuously aim to be someone you admire.
Self love involves not settling for less than you deserve so before you enter into a relationship, friendship, career or any sort of commitment, ask yourself these three questions:
How does this make me feel?
Will this add value to my life or take away from it?
Am I compromising who I am and my beliefs?
The answers to those questions will guide you in making your decision and you will be able to determine whether you are truly honoring yourself.
" If it doesnt serve you, it will hinder you."
Treat yourself well and find a tribe who uplifts you and doesn't tear you down. The only person who will love you more than you love yourself is God. Learn to love who you are unapologetically because you set the tone for how others will love and treat you.