Mirror, Mirror on the Wall Who Is the Fairest of Them ALL?
This era has become overly consumed with perfecting the outer. It’s like our priorities have shifted, we no longer care that much about building our character. Nowadays, it’s all about how you appear to others as opposed to how you really are. It’s about getting approval from others, appearing as though you have it all.
Social media has assisted in propelling this unhealthy desire. I’m in no way bashing social media itself because it is simply a tool. However, you must admit that it is alarming how many people are stunting for the gram. Some social media accounts are so far removed from people's actual lives, it’s like they're living a fantasy life.
Why are you pretending to have designer clothes?
Why are you pretending to be living a lavish life when you aren’t?
It cannot be for you; it must be for others.
I have seen some individuals compete and try to "keep up with the joneses". Keeping up with an image they see. Countless hours spent editing the "perfect picture" or scrolling through someone’s social media page. Conversely, it is so difficult to spend that same amount of time on something beneficial towards our development. We would easily spend $300 towards getting our hair and nails done, buying clothes, shoes or going out but we hesitate to put that money towards a course, program or book that could help build us.
The Perfect Shape
We all know the body shape that’s currently in fashion at the moment – that Kim K, Nicki shape. Some of you are naturally blessed with that Coca-Cola shape but for most, they have to be enhanced. I’m not saying every person who goes under the knife felt pressured but a lot do. A lot of women believe it is the only way to look good, to be accepted or even loved.
What does having the perfect shape honestly guarantee? Some likes on your Instagram?
It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll have genuine friends.
It doesn’t guarantee that you won’t be cheated on.
It doesn’t guarantee that you will automatically be happy.
It doesn’t guarantee that you won’t struggle.
Feeding Your Soul Negativity
There is so much negativity in the world that it is easy to become caught in its cycle. It is so easy for some of us to share negativity. Some of us don’t hesitate to tear down, criticize or ridicule someone but to give a compliment is like drinking poison. Some of us thrive on the "downfall" or setbacks of others. Some of us can’t wait to share a picture that highlights another in a negative light but can never share a message of inspiration or encouragement.
I want you to ask yourself:
How much time do I spend focusing on negativity?
How much time do I spend watching or doing things that is not beneficial to my life?
Do I spend all of my free time watching reality shows?
How much time do I spend with my friends gossiping about someone?
Would I say that I'm a petty person?
If the answers to these questions are yes and many hours then how can you be surprised when your life is at a standstill. How can you complain about your life when all you do is focus on things or people that are not adding any value to your life? How can you expect to be blessed if you are busy hating or ridiculing others?
Being negative does not change the situation and only makes you a miserable person. Instead of complaining, be thankful for what you have and work towards changing what you can.
Why Do We Care About Other People's Opinions?
We all have heard the phrase "find people who love you for you." Simple right? Truth is many individuals are insecure with their own selves, making it difficult for them to let their inner beauty shine. Also, many individuals treat others badly based on the outer without getting to know them.The same is true of relationships, most individuals critique heavily on a person's appearance without taking into account the person's personality.
This can lead individuals to fixate on how they look just to "fit in" or be noticed which in turn can lead to low self-esteem or more insecurities. A need to change your body to look beautiful. The ironic thing is that the same individuals who make you feel insecure are battling their own insecurities.
Why do we care so much about what another person thinks about us?
Is it because they are popular ?
Is it because you like them ?
Is it because you are trying to fit in?
The Beauty of Your Soul
We have all encountered someone who is so beautiful that you cannot help but stare. Sadly, when interacting with them, all you receive is bad vibes causing you to want to get away as fast as possible. On the other hand, they maybe someone who is not eye candy but their personality is so infectious that you want to be around them a lot.
Hmm now let’s think about this. Why would we rather spend time with the better personality? It’s because we love to be around individuals who make us laugh, feel good and care about us. Now, if you wrap shit gold, wrapping it doesn’t change the fact that the person is still getting shit as a gift.
I’ve read heartwarming stories about car accident and burn survivors who found love. Why is this? In these cases, their physical appearance had changed. These individuals were known as being loving, caring and funny with the most beautiful souls.
Ask yourself, if your looks were to change today, is your personality one which would attract others?
Don't fixate on the outer and focus on the inner. True beauty radiates from within.
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Proverbs 31: 30 NIV)
Char is the Editor of doseofinspiration246.com. A firm believer in Christ and has a deep love for her family. Char believes that we should always seek to uplift and encourage each other and she desires to continuously promote positivity.