The recent tragic events around the world have moved me to the core. The hurricanes: Harvey, Irma, Jose and Maria which left nothing but devastation. The earthquakes in Mexico and the horrific shooting in Las Vegas.
As many of us watched the news to try to understand the devastation which left many grieving, I could only think about how precious life is. We all saw the houses and cars which individuals worked hard to attain be destroyed. We saw the businesses and various institutions where individuals worked disappear.
No longer are these affected individuals worrying about stunting for the gram, making a certain amount of money or accomplishing achievements by a certain age. They are fighting for survival and grieving. Things which were problems prior to the devastation are now upon reflection, meaningless.
How many of us realize that life is a gift? How many of us are grateful to be alive and well?
It doesn’t take a hurricane, earthquake or shooting to highlight the simple truth that life is precious. You could trip and fall or you could suddenly become ill. In a split second your life could change forever.
I have accompanied my mom to the hospital to visit loved ones and the hospital is its own world, different from the outside world. You witness sick individuals with their loved ones surrounding them praying for a full recovery. On some wards, being able to go to the bathroom by yourself or feed yourself is a huge accomplishment. Could you imagine that ? Simple tasks that many of us take for granted daily.
I've had conversations with patients who informed me that they simply wished they could go to the beach and watch the sunset. Some stated how they regretted not relaxing more and caring for their bodies.
Isn't it amazing that when we become ill, we suddenly miss all the mundane tasks we often complain about doing when we are well. Often times being ill causes us to realize the people and things that are important to us. Being ill causes one to prioritize their life.
There are countless articles about young vibrant individuals who are now paralyzed, in a coma or lost a limb due to a horrific accident. The family recounts how full of life they were, how much they loved travelling and hanging out with friends, what sports they played or the plans they had for their future.
Now, getting them to walk, talk or eat is the main focus. I recount a story of a teenage girl who lost her arm while travelling home from school. She was simply on her way home, she was not doing anything reckless or out of the ordinary but she lost her arm. Can you image losing an arm as a teenager? Teenage life is often already challenging and now this girl has to learn how to do most tasks using one arm. How many of us even recognize it is a blessing to have two arms?
I know individuals who suffer from Alzheimer's and it's painful to watch your loved ones no longer recognize you. The only consolation the loved ones have is that they enjoyed their life. Some of you may be thinking they are probably old and while that may be true, so many of us state that when we get older we will have the time and money to relax and enjoy ourselves.
Many of us live by the quote, "grind in your 20's, build in your 30's, chill in your 40's." Life is short, no really, life is short! We have to stop living as if tomorrow and years from now is promised because it really isn't. At an older age, we may have the time and the money but not the health.
So I ask you, are you enjoying your life?
Are you doing things that bring you joy?
Are you waiting until you achieve a goal to enjoy life?
How would you describe your life?
We get caught up in the rat race of life; looking for a job, working hard to keep a job, buying a car, house or renting an apartment and we forget to live.
"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all."- Oscar Wilde
I’m not saying attaining those things aren't important but do not allow the pursuit of those things to dictate your life. Enjoy the journey and celebrate where you are.
There is no perfect moment to enjoy your life and do what you want, my advice to you is to .........
You are not going to regret making time to spend with your loved ones and do what you're passionate about. You are not going to regret having less late nights out, manicures and pedicures so you can travel the world.
Why are so many of us waiting on something big to happen before we embrace this beautiful thing called life?
Are you waiting until marriage to live? What happens if you get married at 30 or 40, would you waste over a decade of your life being unhappy and just existing?
Waiting until you get a promotion? What happens if the company fires you ?
Stop allowing setbacks, disappointments, heartaches or loss to stop you from enjoying life. Life is not always easy; it is not rainbows and unicorns, it is filled with challenges.
When you experience tragedies, setbacks or disappointments, take time to grieve or get angry but do not get stuck in that event. You have to move on and continue to live.
Just because your heart was broken does not mean that you should give up on love.
Just because a loved one has died does not mean that you should die as well.
Just because your business has closed down does not mean that you will never own a successful business.
Do not allow an event or events to define your entire life negatively. Do not use it as a crutch to stop living or enjoying life.
The Issue With Being Comfortable
Don't be so comfortable with where you are that life passes you by. There is a difference between being grateful and being complacent. You can be grateful for where you are in life and what you are doing while seeking to improve your current situation. Being complacent is when you are so comfortable where you are that you do not see the need for self-improvement.
You may be working a dead end job and your day to day life is the same routine constantly.
Why??? Why are you contented to live a mediocre life when having a great life is possible? It is so easy to wake up one morning at 40 or 50 and realize that you have not done anything with your life. No major accomplishment, no fun or adventure, you simply went through life on neutral.
How tragic is it that capable and healthy individuals are contented to live a life that they themselves deem as sub-par?
Life is what you make it to be, it is possible to create the life you want.
As mentioned above, life is too short and unpredictable to wait to enjoy it. Everyday take some time out to listen to your favorite song or read a couple pages of a book. Take time to look around and appreciate how blessed you are. Take time to do what you love. Take time to enjoy all the achievements you have attained thus far in your life. Take time to enjoy your own company.
Don't fixate so much on the future that you forget to live in the present.
Life is a blessing from God and once you are alive, you have an opportunity to do anything.
What would you do if you found out that you only had a couple of months to live? What would you do if money was not an issue? What would you do today if you knew there was no tomorrow?
Go out there and find ways to do it. Live NOW!
As Ms. McCluskey on Desperate Housewives said, "I can't tell you how to live your life but not living it is not the answer."
Char is the Editor of doseofinspiration246.com. A firm believer in Christ and has a deep love for her family. Char believes that we should always seek to uplift and encourage each other and she desires to continuously promote positivity.