On my first day, I walked in like "yassssss, I'm about to get paid and build a career," but on my last day, I gracefully walked out like, "nah, this ain't for me."
My first job experience did not go as planned but that's life right? Expect the unexpected. I was excited to start building a career and becoming independent but this job just wasn't for me. I didn't see any room for growth, I wasn't learning anything beneficial, I detested what I did and most of my co-workers were just a bit too petty. It's something I can't really explain but I had this constant feeling that something was missing and this job just wasn't the one.
Those reasons may not be justifiable enough for some of you but as an aspiring young professional, I was too young to settle for mediocrity. I've decided to share a couple of things I learned for those who are working jobs they hate and contemplating whether or not to hand in that resignation letter.
Here are a few things I learned from leaving a "stable job":
God Always Has A Plan
Believe me when I say that God already maps out the route when you decide to take another road. I resigned without having another job secured but God is good!! Within two weeks, I had a part time job and within a month of that part time job, I was successful in attaining an internship at a reputable company.
Your experience may not be the same as mine and it may take you longer to find another job but you have to believe that God will make a way.
I Know What's Best For Me Better Than Anyone
When I was struggling with the decision of whether to resign, majority advised me not to until I secured another job. Their reasoning was quite logical but I knew I would be doing a disservice to myself if I stayed.
I was miserable, constantly complaining and those 8 hours at work, felt like 20 hours. This was no way to live and I owed it to myself to do better.
People will always have their opinions but deep inside, you know the decision you want to make. I knew what was best for me and I have no regrets.
Never Be A Slave To A Paycheck Or Job Title
One of the few reasons to stay was a consistent paycheck. I wasn't hard up for cash but knowing that I would have a steady income made me feel "safe."
In an interview, Mellody Hobson mentioned that you shouldn't make decisions based on money, you will be more successful if you make decisions based on what will feed your soul and make you feel valued. In another interview, J Cole talked about people who go to jobs that they hate everyday and we were basically sell outs, selling our time for money. We were letting the system win.
Those interviews spoke to me and I came to the realization that I could not let money rule my life. My time and peace of mind were worth way more than my current salary.
Money wasn't the only reason I had to stay, it was also the fear of not living up to the expectations of others.
To whom much is given, much is required.
I knew people were watching and expecting alot of me, I dreaded being asked, "so what are you doing with your life now?". I could not stomach the thought of others believing I was doing nothing with my life and disappointing my family but I had to remind myself that I have to live for me and not for others.
People will always judge what they don't understand and this is my journey, not theirs so they don't need to. I honestly preferred to be unemployed than to be employed in a stagnant job.
Life Involves Taking Risks
I didn't want to play it safe and live so cautiously that I end up not living at all. Life involves trial and error, if I didn't leave, I would have ended up staying there for a year or more and I could not afford to do that.
Taking a risk is scary, I had no idea what would happen next but I had enough faith in myself and my God to know it would be something better.
My current situation was not my final destination.
You shouldn't be afraid to leave good for great. The internship I mentioned above resulted in contract after contract until I decided to accept another opportunity at a different company a couple of months ago. If I didn't take the risk, I would not have acquired the experience, opportunities and met the amazing people that I did.
I left sure (full time job) for unsure (contract after contract) but it was the right decision because I'm closer to where I want to be than I would have been in my permanent full time job. Sometimes, you have to bet on yourself and just go for it.
" When it feels scary to jump, that's exactly when you jump. Otherwise you end up staying the same place your whole life. And that I can't do." - J.C. Chandor
Many of us are victims of living a life that others want for us but it is important to remember that our time here is limited so don't waste it pursuing a career that you really don't want. It's easier said than done, especially when you have responsibilities and cannot risk leaving your current job although you hate it. If that's your situation, make sure that you don't get comfortable and remain stuck.
Be honest and ask yourself:
- Do I love/like my job?
- Is my job beneficial to my personal and professional growth?
- What is my mood like when I'm getting ready for work?
- Am I just keeping this job to collect these coins?
- What does my dream job look like?
- What skills can I work on to enhance my career?
Your time is the most valuable asset you have and you spend most of it at your job so it's important to be mindful of whether your job is serving or hindering you. Remind yourself that this is only a stop along the way and not your final destination. Work on your goals and stop settling.
If you're determined that you want to get out and you can do better, start sending out applications like crazy, network, start your own business or create your platform...DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO! Your dream life won't just magically appear, start managing your money a bit better so that if you leave and it takes a while to find a job, you still have some coins. Come up with an exit strategy and find ways to make it work.
I believe that you shouldn't settle when it comes to two things: your LIFE and LOVE.
Who you are and who you're becoming is way more important than the money you make and your job title. Money comes and goes (goes way tooo fast) so don't let that be your main factor when it comes to a job. Life is what you make it so go out there and start taking risks. The great things happen outside of your comfort zone.
"What you have to decide is how you want your life to be. If your forever was ending tomorrow, would this be how you'd want to have spent it? Listen, the truth is, nothing is guaranteed. You know that more than anybody. So don't be afraid. Be alive." - Sarah Dessen