Your family, friends and neighbors swear they know what's best for your life. Everyone wants to have an input about what you should do and their excuse is "I just want you to be successful", "I want what's best for you" as if you don't want what's best for you too.
Honestly, success is subjective. What one person deems as success may not necessarily resonate with another. For me, success has nothing to do with wealth, fame or academic accomplishments. Success is waking up everyday and having the freedom to do what I love. It's genuinely loving my life and helping others in the process. Ultimately, success is fulfilling my purpose.
Our purpose has nothing to do with us, it's about being of service to others. On judgement day, God will be more concerned with what I did for others, my character and whether I fulfilled my purpose on earth as opposed to how much money I made and my job title. Not to say that those things aren't important because we need money to survive and we also need doctors, lawyers etc but never place your value on such things. We read and see it all the time, many celebrities and successful people speak about success not equating to happiness. The money, fame and success comes but sometimes you feel like other things are more important such as love, family and friends.
I have a law degree and many are baffled as to why I am not going to law school and pursuing the career. Quite frankly, law does not make me want to get up in the morning and while I'm young, I rather try to get the life I want before I settle. According to Mark Cuban, a billionaire tech entrepreneur, " when you're 22, 23, 24, there's really no such thing as failure really. The point is to get started and learn as much as you can".
You have to ask yourself what success looks like to you and what you're willing to sacrifice for it. For example: let's say you're a manager of a reputable company earning $12 000 a month after deductions but you hate your job. It's time consuming and stressful, you hardly have time for yourself and loved ones. Would you still feel successful? Would it be worth it sacrificing your peace and freedom because others deemed you as "successful"?
I definitely wouldn't, anything that costs me my peace is too expensive. It's said that if you go to a job you hate, you're no more than a slave that gets paid a salary. Do you really want to be enslaved for most of your life? You spend majority of your day at your job, make sure you like it.
Sometimes, what we think would make us feel successful doesn't and that's because there is more to life than money and achievements. In most situations, when we place our value on such things, we always want more because it's never enough. When we place our value on what money can't buy, we start to see all the amazing things and people life has to offer.
Always remember that this is your life and you're the one who has to live it everyday until your time to leave this earth comes. Define success on your terms, if you constantly allow yourself to be controlled by the opinions of others, YOU WON'T LIVE!
Leave a comment or email me and let me know how you define success!