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When you were younger, you never imagined that life would be like this..hard, overwhleming, frustrating and confusing. You envisioned a picture perfect life, a life without struggles and hardships but my dear, that is not your reality, is it?
You've had too many bad weeks, months and years. You've had more heartbreaks, disappointments and failures than you care to count. Your life has been anything but a fairytale but I want to remind you that those days when you feel like giving up and giving in are the days that will make you.
Those days will show you your strength and lead you to where you need to be. It may not seem like it now but believe me when I say that every tough season serves a purpose. If your life is falling apart, rebuild it piece by piece and step by step. Failure is going to teach you way more than success ever will and it's just a part of your process. At some point, you are always going to fall down but the aim is to keep getting up and rising above. It's never a loss if you overcome and learn from it.
Don't listen to the naysayers and don't give anyone the power to steal your joy. Don't self harm, you are a beautiful work of art that shoud not be ruined. People don't define your worth, you do and no one can ever take what is truly yours. They're people in your life currently who are hindering your progress and I need you to learn to let go of any dysfunction within your life. I need you to stop running back to what hurts you and what makes you feel worthless. I need you to hold yourself accountable for your happiness and the decisions you make. There is no joy in repeating bad cycles, get rid of those bad habits.
Self care is not just about eating healthy, exercising regularly and pampering yourself. Self care can be many things. It involves taking care of your mind, body, soul and holding yourself accountable for the way you treat yourself and the people you allow into your circle. Self care is so important because we teach others how to treat us and when we neglect ourselves mentally, physically and emotionally, it effects everything in our life.
Self care is not selfish, it is a MUST. You can’t pour from an empty cup and if you’re not good to yourself first, you’re no good to anyone. We neglect ourselves because we are so concerned about securing the bag, achieving our goals, caring for others and providing for our family. There is absolutely nothing wrong with those things but when you forget to take care of you, there can be many consequences for your mental and physical health. Don’t forget to take those vacation days, take a break and unwind, go out on a date etc. The “little” things make a huge difference. Here are four self care tips:
Be Kind To Yourself
The love, encouragement and compliments that you so freely give to others, kindly give to yourself. You spend the most time with yourself and you need to be aware of what you are feeding your mind. The world does a great job at beating you down, you don’t need to do it too. Find positive affirmations and recite them every morning, make it a daily routine. Believe in yourself, forgive yourself and fall in love with yourself.
Most of us have experienced a breakup at least once in our lifetime. It is not always an easy process, especially if you are not the one who initiated to end the relationship. Even if you are, it's still not always easy because you may not want to let go but you know it's the best decision.
I've had my fair share of heartbreaks, I know how it feels to wake up with pain and sorrow that just won't go away. More importantly, I also know how it feels to overcome the heartache and you can come out on the other side too.
Here are a few suggestions to help you with handling a breakup:
The worst advice I ever received and acted upon was that the way to get over a relationship was to jump right into another. If you're thinking of doing this, ABORT MISSION!
You may not want to feel the hurt, pain and disappointment but you need to. We repeat what we do not repair so grant yourself permission to heal. Cry, throw things at the wall, scream, be angry, do whatever needs to be done that makes you feel better in the moment.
After, identify how you feel, whether it's disappointment, anger, sadness etc. Describe those feelings and write them down. Take one day at a time and everyday work towards feeling better emotionally and mentally.
Everyday will not be the same, some days you'll laugh and not even think about them and then some days, they can't seem to escape your thoughts. It's okay when this happens but you need to ensure that you don't take any steps back. Stay focused on your healing and don't begin a new relationship until you truly believe that you are in a mental state to.
It's not fair to bring another person into your mess because you don't want to be alone, work on yourself until you are capable of giving yourself fully to another.
Cut Off All Communication
This is key for your healing process. Block and delete from all social media accounts and instant messaging apps.
It may seem harsh especially if you've been together for a long time and you truly care about the person but if the relationship was toxic or you're finding it extremely hard to move on, communication needs to be cut off or cut to a minimum. It's going to be more difficult to move on if you leave gaps open for those "I miss you" texts and you don't want to spend all day stalking their social media and going crazy over who likes and comments on their pictures.